The idea is to make the feeling accessible to the child, to familiarize them with it and help them integrate it healthily.
The third step is typically used with older children because it requires them to use their memory, representation and imagination, aspects which are not fully developed in young children. Older children can be taught in solution – seeking behaviors and attitudes by completing the steps mentioned above and then continuing the process through the creation of a safe space, as described in the video. Watch the video together with your child and pause it in time for them to create their own version of the safe space as they video goes along.
At this point, the aim is to calm the child and have them focus on either accepting what cannot be changed or changing what is within reach.